May 21, 2013

Perfect Match | The Ring, The Ring, The Ring!

I’m a little scared.
I could be jinxing myself. There is always risk with putting information like this up on one’s blog. Risk? The possibility that it might not happen and the embarrassment to follow or to simply being misunderstood. I don’t feel there is anything wrong with having a wish list or talking about it with your partner... and anyone who will listen. I have a feeling that some bloggers hide the fact that their ring was planned or that they picked it out themselves.
 I just want to share my thoughts with you and I have the full support of Mr. B.

It has only been in recent years that I've developed an obsessive compulsive nature. Perhaps, I was always like this but it wasn't until I start working full-time that people started noticing. Of course it doesn't really mean much coming from the guys; if you clean off your desk they immediately label you a neat freak. What does that have to do with the Ring? Honestly, I’m a little OCD about the ring. If the Ring is going to be staring at me for the next 50, 60, 70 years I want it to be perfect.

Now I will preface this with saying, I am very hard to impress and my blog is for you to get to know me. I am also the worst at hiding my reaction whether it is good or bad. I remember going shopping for my prom dress, everything looked ugly then my eyes landed on this beautiful gown. It was out of my budget but I guess my mom and grandma saw my face. They insisted on buying it for me. Believe me I felt supremely blessed and I am still very grateful.

It was the same way with Fluffy (Buick Verano... No one bought him for me).

My quest to find Fluffy took months of test driving, research and one bad experience. Everyone told me to get a close-to-death-beat-up car but you know me. I don’t do old, cheap or breaking down. One morning I was close to death (sinus infection) and was searching on AutoTrader for cars in my budget. Bam! There he was. I immediately revived, called my sister and went to test drive him. I knew he was for me.  I have never regretted my decision.

Now back to the ring and my OCD behavior:
Like I said before my intention when dating has always been to get married… and a result of that mentality is that I talk a lot about marriage. Poor Mr. B. It wasn't until recently that Mr. B starting feeling comfortable on the topic. Perhaps he has always been comfortable with it but not so comfortable with the frequency… I am now wondering if my non-stop talking wore him down.

Knowing the I’m an extremely picky I took it upon myself to find my perfect ring. I have no idea if Mr. B is not okay with letting go of the reins nor do I think I will ask. I shall tread on.

The ring.

Some girls dream of very specific ring, lucky for Mr. B, I'm pretty 'open' to different styles. Originally, I thought that the best option for my tastes and attempting to keep cost within a reasonable budget was to buy a loose diamond. I know that in person I love round diamonds but when buying loose I was open to the different styles.
Round Cut, Cushion Cut, Marquee Cut, Pear Cut

I was mainly looking on the James Allen site since they take pictures of every diamond in their collection. After spending considerable time educating myself on how to choose a diamond I gave up. What if I asked for a badly cut diamond and it didn't sparkle?! It would be no one’s fault but mine. After considering the pros and cons my thinking was, FYI this has been without permission... Mr. B could totally tell me to calm down, to go shopping with him. Which he has agreed to, but he has not invited me yet. 

I know that it’s becoming very common for women to go shopping with their future hubbies but I don't really love the idea. I have thought of two solutions:
1. Go shopping with him, with the mentality that we aren't to buy anything (by ‘we’ I mean him… affecting future we lol), and try on a bunch of rings letting him choose which one he likes.
2. Go shopping without him, make a list at the store, tell him where to go and let him choose the one.

Like always I get ahead of myself and sadly I have people that indulge my obsessive nature. A co-worker took me to a jewelry store last week and I choose a couple rings from their selection. At the time Mr. B didn't know… Bad Sam.

I chose 7… 7 different styles but have since then narrowed it down to 3.
Here they are:

Knife Edge Solitaire Engagement Ring

Three Stone Engagement Ring

Three Stone Channel Set Engagement Ring

A couple years ago I had my heart set on a Tacori 2561rd7. Tacori rings are so beautiful but I can’t justify making Mr. B spend $3000-$4000 on the setting alone. I also began thinking that it didn't make sense to have detailing on the sides because it would be cover by the wedding band... Assuming we making it through the engagement... kidding.

 Mr.B has already gone and checked out the rings. Apparently he really didn't like the Knife Edge Solitaire. I was a little upset he told me which one he didn't like. I had hope he would keep it a secret.
I also chose that ring as a 'safe choice'. When in doubt go with something simple.

I really thought the Knife Edge was going to be his favourite. 

A perfect example of what he generally likes is to tell you his favourite ice cream flavour: Vanilla.
Vanilla Bean to be exact. The more I get to know Mr.B the more he surprises me, in an odd but good way.

Although I still want something fabulous, and I’m sure if I asked I could get a freaking amazing ring, at the end of the day it’s not about a palladium-1.0ct and Up Center Stone-Ring, hehehe, it’s about what it represents and what he wants to give me. Mr. B is a very mature and responsible person in his finances I shan't corrupt him.

There are other topics I wanted to discuss with you, about the complexity of dating someone outside of your religion and culture, but that can wait.

Today, I feel happy.


  1. Hiya! I have nominated you for the Liebster award and I really enjoy reading you blog! I have put all the details on my blog!
    Thank you!
    Love Maddie
    p.s. I love the car :D

    1. Hey Hun! Thank you so much for nominating me. I have a Liebster Award post somewhere on my blog. I will check out your post! (I love your hair!)

  2. LOL...LOL....I am sure that whatever he comes up with you'll be so so very happy with it and I'm saying it not just because....- but because I went thru this a couple of weeks ago and just the fact that he was thoughtful enough to do it the romantic way makes me happy.Of course I like my ring very much and am wearing it every day :)Well,we girls can always hint that we like this and that more - some guys are clever enough to listen and take notes and whenever the moment comes- bam they hit jackpot!

    1. OMG! Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! I think I've been doing a little more than hinting lol. Did you have a feeling it was going to happen? Any hints?

    2. Thanks!!!lol...NO!I was freezing so it was the last thing to expect then and there.I wrote about it in my last post.But yes,we both knew we were getting married,just didn't know how and when.He said he got the ring in January...


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